tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-48503517305365886902024-03-12T22:51:37.390-07:00If the Buddah had PMS....Humor, Insight, Inspiration, GrowlingsJen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.comBlogger97125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-33541168905679933132017-02-08T13:40:00.005-08:002017-02-08T13:40:57.285-08:00What we truly are can always persevere. <div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Last week I remembered a dream I hadn’t thought about in a
very long time. A scene from the Netflix TV series, OA, reminded me of it and I
thought about it again after watching a PBS program on the Oklahoma City
bombing. (Excellent program and worth watching) I had the dream while I was
living in Israel in 1994. I was 25. During the course of living in Israel, I
saw war everywhere. From the soldiers holding machine guns on the buses, to
bomb scares in Tel Aviv, there wasn’t any escape from it. I’d often have nightmares, not surprisingly.
In one dream, I ran through a field trying to escape a crop airplane that was
firing into the field. Then one night, I had a very significant dream and the
one I remembered last week. In it, a man in fatigues broke into a crowded
cafeteria holding a machine gun. When I saw him, we locked eyes and I walked
toward him. I hugged him and I think I let him cry. I was shaken a bit by the
dream because I thought it had a large message for me.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">One of the things that struck most in watching the Oklahoma
City bombing program is how the show ended with the victims reconciling with what
happened. One lady said she had to forgive Timothy McVeigh. Her message really
stuck with me. She said she had to or else the anger would continue to eat her
alive. Timothy McVeigh received the death penalty and died, by observers,
without showing any remorse. He remained bitter and angry to the end. I
thought, if that women could forgive this person then there was no reason for
me to hang onto any of those petty gripes I’ve been clinging to. </span></div>
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still do. What we truly are can always persevere. </span></span>Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-71462043498270465282015-02-12T21:29:00.004-08:002015-02-13T13:23:41.207-08:00Lucky 13<div class="MsoNormal">
In light of it being Friday the 13<sup>th</sup>, the day of
darkness where some believe it’s the day of “bad luck”, I wanted to explore what
this luck concept actually is. If you’re an American like me, you’re taught that
we can make our own luck through hard work and perseverance. A boss reflected back to me just that when she
complimented me on my project completion. I sheepishly replied, “I’m lucky.” To that she said, “I
believe we make our own luck.” That took me back a bit. After reflection, I agreed. <span style="font-family: sans-serif;">I had to ask myself first why it took my boss pointing out to me that I deserved credit rather than me assuming my good results had to do with some magical agent outside of myself. That being said, I do believe in manifesting, the power of the universe to make things happen. So is that what luck is? Is it the benevolence of the universe? </span>Add to that, if we make good luck, can we make bad luck?
What is the root of this all? The clearest answer I can give is that it starts
with Belief. And I do mean Belief with a
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<div class="MsoNormal">Who started this superstition that the # 13 is bad and even
worse on a Friday? I’ll let you do that Google search. Whoever started it and
why isn’t really the answer I’m after. My interest lies in the battalion of
people who believed in it, and feared it. It’s the fear that interests me. </div>
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Let’s get back to the benevolence of the universe,
superstition, and fear-based thinking. If we agree that it’s the job of the
universe to bestow luck upon us, then we have to create a reason why it’s
bestowed or not bestowed on us. Do we have to create ourselves worthy somehow?
Nothing says worthiness like hard work right? So in that scenario, all our
industriousness should pay off right? But what about the good for nothings that
seems to get things so easily? Oh well, maybe it’s not so simple as that. Or
maybe it is as simple as that.</div>
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Why do we have superstitions at all? I believe it comes from
our need to believe. Belief is part of creation and we are part of a bigger
creative power. I also believe that
superstition is rooted in fear while true belief is rooted in faith. What’s the
difference? It’s a good versus evil, punishment versus reward scenario. </div>
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Our thoughts are powerful and they are creating all the
time. I can say for myself for all that I think I know about manifesting, there’s
that little creeping doubt in there. It’s the fear of, “what if I’m wrong?” Yet,
in the end, I more often than not find myself saying, “things worked out and I
have my faith restored.” </div>
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Or even if things didn’t work out, in time and perspective I
saw why. And there’s the harder part of understanding that my fears had gotten
in the way of seeing the bigger picture at the time and I could have saved myself some heartache if I could have gotten my head out of the way.</div>
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I’m careful to not take on anyone else’s superstitions too
readily and will challenge them if I’m feeling cheeky. A French girl I met
recently told me it is bad luck to put your purse on the ground because as she
said it, it’s bad for money. I smelled superstition and I asked her where she
got that. She acted startled. She couldn’t answer. “Maybe you started it,”
joked another person. Maybe. I’m sure someone told her and she passed it along.
And maybe that’s how Friday the 13<sup>th</sup> became unlucky, that kind of
blindly passing along of info without question; Much like those heinous chain emails from the 90's that threatened bad luck if we didn’t forward them. I can hear my spirit guides
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Oh yes our spirit guides. They listen to our thoughts and
pay attention to what we believe. And if we constantly put out negative
thoughts, we create negative scenarios. We live our nightmares and at the end
of the day became the "Chicken Littles" of our own creation. Well that sounds
gloomy. And it can be if you choose to live that way.</div>
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The good news is we can question beliefs because they are
thought patterns of our own creation. My mind can be a dark place if I allow my
fears to encapsulate it. It takes discipline not to cater to my shadow self. If
I bought into all my fears, I wouldn’t be living in a new place, with a
mountain view, and seeing my healing business starting to take off. It took
faith and patience to bring me here. So
I’m going to enjoy this beautiful Friday because it's FRIDAY.</div>
Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-76518912033545306962014-10-28T23:23:00.001-07:002014-10-30T11:03:59.472-07:00Taps and Yanks: my ghostly encounters<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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things happen with spirits; ones that left me questioning, why me? I can’t
answer why – only explain the conditions surrounding my encounters. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">My ghost experiences haven’t happened in places one would expect –
as in a haunted attraction or some creepy house late at night – but in rather
ordinary places. And the two encounters, well, more accurately, physical
encounters happened in the day.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">The last time a spirit touched me, it was two days before Halloween.
I’d gone to my favorite coffee shop. Late in the afternoon, the front room
wasn’t packed and the wicker couch that sat in the corner of the shop stood
empty. I quickly honed in on the spot. It was an ideal place to hole up and
write. Since the couch lined the wall, and tucked into the corner, no one could
walk behind me or on my right side. A coffee table stood between me and the
opposing couch so that barricaded me further. And that day, no one sat on the
left me. Being sensitive, I can easily be disturbed by too much jostling noise around
me, so I always looked for a spot where I could have the least interruption
from another customer passing by. The remaining afternoon light fell through
the window as I sat engrossed in my work. As I said, nestled in the corner, no
one could possibly be in contact with me, so when I felt 3 taps on my right
shoulder I knew I wasn’t being touched by a physical being (i.e., a live
person). Being a sensitive person, especially to energy, I just knew something
or someone was there. And based on a previous experience, I felt that I was
again encountering a ghost. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">The first time, I was living on a farm in Israel. It was in the
fall, and I was in the green house, working alone. I don’t recall exactly what
I was doing. I probably was repotting some plants, but I can still feel my arm
being yanked suddenly – the kind of yank done by someone trying to get your
attention. I most likely yelped and turned around to see who was doing it. No
one was there. I yelled out my boyfriend’s brother’s name thinking he was
trying to prank me. No response. I checked around under the table and all
around it. I saw no one. I didn’t hear a crunch on the floor gravel which I
would have heard if my boyfriend’s brother was trying to run out the door. And
I thought, “if it really was him trying to prank me, I knew he couldn’t contain
his giggle.” It popped into my head then that it must have been a ghost. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Before this experience in the greenhouse, I had another
inexplicable experience, again, while working alone. One late afternoon working
in the field, pruning some trees, I looked up and saw 2 figures, a woman and a
young boy, standing a few feet away. Standing isn’t the correct term. It felt like
an image to me. A reflection. The clothes they wore solidified that feeling. The
woman wore a long black dress and a young boy wore an equally dark suit. It
looked like 19<sup>th</sup> century clothing to me, the kind the Jewish
settlers from Europe that farmed that area must have worn. I knew from a museum visit at the Hula Valley visitor center where the farm was located that life hadn't been easy for the settlers. They bought land in Palestine and turned a malaria infested swap into a productive farm area. But malaria must have struck many of the immigrants and I wondered if the ghosts I saw were victims of the disease. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I admit seeing their image startled me. I turned my eyes and when
I looked back, I saw nothing. I shrugged it off at the time. It was possible my
eyes were playing tricks on me. However, there’s no mistaking a yank on your arm. The
ghost or ghosts were trying to make their presence known. Prior to this, I had a lot of harrowing experiences while
living there (that’s another story for another time) so by the time the ghosts
yanked on me, I wasn’t exactly in the mood to figure out why. But, and I’m
going to be cliché, the mystery of why me on that day still “haunts me”. Ok, I said
it. Pun time over. But truly, I never stopped wondering, why me. Over the years, I’ve turned over several possibilities. Lately I've wondered if my pale, European like face
might have been part of the draw. My Israeli boyfriend and many of his
neighbors were either of Persian or Indian descent. But the figures I saw were
definitely of European heritage and perhaps I was someone they related to. Or
perhaps they felt from me that I was a stranger in a strange land like they had been. I can’t say, and I may never know why me. I never mentioned the
experience to my boyfriend. I didn’t think he would have believed me. So if it
were a common experience there, to be tugged on by a ghost, it was unbeknownst and still unknown to me.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">As an empathic person, I am open to energy, and because of my previous
experience in Israel, I probably put up a wall - a fortress would be more
accurate - until a friend told me about the “free will” law. According to her,
spirits had no right to mess with you. You could simply could tell them to
leave you in peace and they had to obey. She told me this prior to me moving to
Sonoma. So when I felt that tap on my shoulder, I simply told the ghost to go
away. Did it? Sort of. The tab on the right side of my word document starting
scrolling up and down. At least, that’s what I remember at the time. In
retrospect I do wonder, "Wait, did that really happen? And why did it happen?" At the time, I honestly thought that this ghost was trying to startle me. In
startling me, I would have released energy and this energy would have fed the
ghost. "Isn’t that what it wanted?" That’s what I thought. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Let’s just say for fun
that it got into my word document to tell a story. And had I opened myself up
and let this ghost speak, I would have learned his story. In hindsight, it’s
possibly that this ghost, who I felt was a male was probably a farm
worker. He could have been someone of
Italian descent who came to Sonoma after losing his chance in the Gold Rush, to
find a more fortunate circumstance in the fertile vineyards. He didn’t fulfill
his promise. Having an unfinished life, perhaps he needed to share his story and finding a writer might have been his goal. Like my Israeli immigrants, his story has yet to be told, at least by me.... Poor ghost! I won’t know his story either or
again, the mystery of why me. Perhaps you’ll be braver should you get tapped
and turn and ask why? It’s that time of year when the window between our worlds
are thinner and more answers can be heard, if you are a brave soul. </span></div>
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Halloween!!</span></div>
Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-26493431860341269562014-04-23T17:12:00.000-07:002014-04-23T17:12:47.325-07:00The Intuitive Energy Healer that is MeHi everyone! I have exciting news to share about a new career path for me. I'm an intuitive energy healer. I discovered my ability to work with energy a few years ago, but I didn't have a full realization what I could do with this ability until last year. I do plan on writing about my discovery but since it's a STORY and might take a bit for me to write, for now, I wanted to announce the launch of my website and my business called Pure Pearl Energy Healing. <a href="http://purepearlenergyhealing.com/">http://purepearlenergyhealing.com/</a><br />
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I'm excited about this career path because it's a great avenue for me to use my ability as an empath. I'm still a writer. The great thing about being a writer is that I can articulate what this wild world of energy healing is all about. So as I learn, I'll share. Check out my site. Feel free to ask questions. And of course, contact me if you need energy healing. I specialize in doing online healings either by phone or by instant messaging so I can make appointments with people no matter what continent you are on. (Really. I've done a healings with people located in Cental and South America). I also do empathic reads and coaching. You can find all details of what I do on my site.<br />
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Best, Jen<br />
<br />Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-84205921983306719302013-10-28T14:24:00.001-07:002013-11-01T11:49:48.620-07:00Ghost TailSince it's nearing my favorite time of year - Halloween - I thought I'd blog one of my creepier stories.<br />
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I love cats. And I mean really love them. You might subscribe my love of them to my inner witch. Whatever the draw is, I just have a strong connection to cats. I also love old homes. And I love cemeteries. Cemeteries don't creep me out like they may for some people. The energy I feel at a cemetery is mostly peaceful which is why I often visit them. I used to live in a Victorian house in Oakland down the street from one of my all time favorite cemeteries, Mountain View. One sunny morning, I was tra-tra-tralling through Mountain View when I spotted a red circle on a tombstone. I was instantly intrigued because I associated that kind of of symbol with Native American Indian hieroglyphs - and to me that was a positive type of drawing. I was too far away to make out what the symbol truly was so I bounced excitedly over to the tombstone to figure out what it could mean. The design consisted of two circles, one larger circle encompassing the smaller circle. The larger circle was painted with something that looked like hair and more hair then would ever come off using a brush. A chill came over me and I got a tingling that something wasn't right which made me look to my right. Down on the ground I saw a skeleton of a newly killed cat. The body was skinned and contorted. I realized then that what I truly discovered was a cat used in animal sacrifice. This symbol had nothing to do with Native American culture. It was sinister. And maybe what I thought was red paint could very well have been blood. Horrified, I rushed to the cemetery's management office to report what I saw. I explained to the person at the counter what I found. The person took in what I said and told me that they would send someone over to clean it up. I wasn't sure if the person at the counter took me seriously. To me it was dead serious. Someone had performed an evil act in one my favorite places & I wanted that cleaned up. I left the cemetery, disturbed, hoping they would follow through.<br />
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I couldn't let it go. I kept thinking about the cat, wondering if the cemetery personnel were handling the cleanup. I dragged a friend over to the tombstone the next day. The symbol, the cat & all the negativity of that act was still there at the grave site. Pissed & upset I marched over to the office. Now, normally I'm pretty polite. I don't harass people to get my way but on that day, I did just that. I made a cemetery staff member get into one of their golf carts and drive over with me to the site so he could see it for himself. The staff member tried to figure out who would do the sacrifice, blaming it on art students he'd seen the day before. I wasn't convinced. That wasn't an act of someone just dabbling in black magic. To me, the extent of the sacrifice, including the skinning of the cat spoke of someone with a very corrupt and damaged mind.<br />
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I don't know if they found the culprit who did the sacrifice but the cemetery did clean up the mess and today there is no trace of what happened there - the energy has been purified. But I think of that cat and what happened to it. I'm angered that anyone would murder an animal because of their fucked up psychology. Recently I've been thinking about the cat's spirit. "What happens to the spirit of an animal if it is sacrificed?," I wondered. Then it dawned on me that I might know. (Now that I've already revealed some of my weird quirks such as liking cemeteries, I guess I can confess that from time to time I see spiritual energy.) In my Victorian house in Oakland, out of the corner of my eye, I would see a spirit of a black cat darting around the house. I didn't know who the cat was. I thought I might be, Frankie, who was a cat of former housemate. Frankie didn't die at the house but he lived at that house for several years and he and I had a close relationship. But I wasn't sure. I would only see the cat briefly, jumping around. Finally it hit me that maybe it was the cat from the cemetery. I didn't see the color of its fur in the circle because it was covered in red. It made sense though that the color of the cat was black as they are too often picked up and abused in that way. I truly hope that it was the cat, that it's spirit attached to me in the cemetery and I brought him home to a safe place. And mostly I hope that cat has moved on and is living it's 2nd, 3rd or 9th life in a very happy home.<br />
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Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-90087373009968978122013-07-22T14:21:00.001-07:002013-08-31T15:52:13.638-07:00You're sensitive? Me too. I've learned to embrace sensitivity as a giftInteresting the interaction I just had with a lady at Starbucks. This lady was one person in line ahead of me. The lady directly in front of me turned to me and asked me if I had the time. I said I didn't know without rummaging for my phone to check. She told me that's okay. The lady in front of her turned and "randomly" said to her, "I think it's about 12:45." The lady who 1st asked for the time took off right then. Curious, I reached for my phone and saw that it was exactly 12:45. I spoke out to the woman and said, "you're right, it is 12:45". "That's weird," she said. "Not to me," I said. "I'm empathic so I often get those kinds of feelings." "What's empathic?" inquired this lady. Then it dawned on my the purpose of my conversation.<br />
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I've been coming across A LOT of empathic people lately. I feel this is a combination that I've become more open then I've ever been about my abilities along with my heartfelt desire to connect more with others like me. In the past, I wouldn't have mentioned this ability for fear of being seen like a nut job to this person. She may have thought that I was but I pursued the conversation regardless. I explained to her that empaths have heightened sensitivity to feelings. I asked if she felt this was true of her. She replied, "Well, I'm sensitive but I always thought that was because I'm a mommy." I didn't respond directly to her supposition that what makes her more sensitive is being a mom. Having had both an insensitive mother and grandmother, that's not my own personal experience that motherhood heightens your sensitivities. (Though I have witnessed women I felt who have had an overly hard exterior soften after becoming moms). Motherhood doesn't mean you can pick up on information like knowing the time. That's someone in my opinion that has heightened sensitivity (or highly sensitive).<br />
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When I say "heightened sensitivities" I mean being open to information in the "ether". And what I mean by "information in the ether" is that there's universal communication always going on around us. The universe is always speaking and if you have your radar on, you can pick things up. This is what sensitives know. Ask one, if you're not one, and they will tell you. :) Some of us are more tuned into it than others.<br />
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When I have this kinds of conversation, or what I like to think as an "universal encounter" I shift up my energy level so that I'm in the universal space of consciousness. It's from this place where I can to tune into someone's energy. In this case, I was determining this woman's empathic ability. I felt she had this ability so I asked her what she did for a living. She said she worked with special needs kids, some of whom were autistic. I asked if she could feel what their needs were even with the kids who weren't able to speak. She replied she had "non verbal kids" and she felt she could sense their needs. I shared my feeling that she was uniquely gifted to work in this capacity because she could communicate her students' feelings if they couldn't verbally express themselves. I'm tearing up just thinking about this & how wonderful she could use her empath skills in this way!<br />
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The flip side of being an empath is that we can pick up so much of someone else's energy, it can fatigue us. This lady told me she's an insomniac and gets about 4 hours of sleep. I felt myself "full of advice" to share about how she could protect her energy but I also could feel the wall, the wall the woman began to put up between us. When I feel a wall I know that I've reached my limit with a person. I pulled myself away & went on with my business. I don't know what she'll take from this conversation. She may just forget all about it -and if what I shared doesn't work for her, I feel she should drop what I said. I felt the purpose of the conversation was to validate that her sensitivities & that her abilities serve a purpose which she's uses to "great effect".<br />
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Being sensitive I'm sensitive to other sensitives who may have gotten a bad rap from others about being "too sensitive". I've had a fair share of complaints from family and "friends" that I'm too sensitive. They threw this at me when I reacted to a comment I felt was piercingly unkind. But rather than take responsibility for what was said by the person who said it, they laid it on me that my hurt feelings were my fault. And with negative piled on negative I hated my sensitivity until I had the realization that being sensitive is actually a beautiful trait. And not only was it beautiful that I can connect with more emotional depth than most people, these same people who shamed me for my sensitivities also benefited from my abilities. I could tune into their feelings and feel their feelings and know where they came from. I got angry after that realization because I realized that I didn't honor or respect my abilities, and that being sensitive served a purpose. It wasn't something to be embarrassed about or hide. And when I finally accepted myself and my abilities I began to explore what I could using my own gifts.<br />
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I have to give credit my one of my Twitter friends, Helen E. for helping me cope with my sensitivities. She inspired me because she didn't hide that she's highly sensitive. She embraced it. She even puts out a Twitter journal called "I'm a little sensitive." I admit I was concerned about following another highly sensitive person on Twitter because I didn't want to risk offending her. One of the downsides of my sensitivity is that I can feel the hurt of others so if someone is highly sensitive, a red flag goes up. Of all the time I've followed Helen, I've NEVER had any difficulty. Unlike others where I've felt a burst of emotional flame, we've always had good communication. And what I took from that is this: in her act of embracing herself, she doesn't hide who she is, or makes excuses like I had been doing. I admired and felt inspired by this self-acceptance.<br />
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I admit there was a part of me that wanted to pass on the feel good energy of "feel good about being an empath" to this lady today. Maybe she needed it. Maybe it was projection. But I felt something. And I know my abilities. If there's a feeling, I trust it now. And rather than "tough it out" meaning smash down my feelings like others do, I embrace them and go with the emotional flow.<br />
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I told the lady it was really nice meeting her and it was. If anything else, I had a connection and in that is a good experience on any given day.<br />
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<br />Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-52105451457494613912013-07-16T15:12:00.000-07:002013-07-16T15:13:10.883-07:00Game Play: My new winning strategy<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%;">I’ve
asked myself what is my "DEAL", as if the cards I’m “handed” in life aren’t
the cards of my choosing. What I mean by that is, I know I designed my life before I entered into my
earth body, even if my “score” isn’t always in my memory. </span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%;">I’ve walked sidewalks spotting playing cards
lying in the street. </span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%;">And I’ve wondered if
that’s a “chance” card or a card I’ve asked to receive. I’ve also found dice
& wondered if I’m on a roll or again if this is just chance. </span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%;">I</span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%;">n reality, I’m not much of a game player,
in particular if the games are mostly made of odds; I like to win. So, the
games I most like to play are ones of strategy where I can plan my move &
be in the spot that’s most advantageous. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t;
but the more I play the more I can predict that outcome. This is my view of
intelligent design: to know the position that’s most advantageous to get a
winning score. </span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%;">I've surprised myself by writing this above paragraph. I'm not always in touch my competitive spirit but it's there. On one hand I want to admonish myself for such thoughts as seeing life as "winning" or "losing". But life is "rewarding". We have these phrases and we use them often: "the game of life", "winning hand", etc., etc. If I took life as play, could I take it less seriously? Can I just see some situation as just a bad hand & a hand I can walk away from?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%;">I said I don't like to play the odds but I have gambled at a few things in life & there hasn't always been a good pay off. So in my life now, as I move forward, I'm playing a game of strategy - one that when I see a turn at the road ahead, I won't be so freaked out because I've either planned for that outcome or know enough to know how to "DEAL" with it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%;">So maybe that's my true DEAL - to forgive the losses & forge ahead with a renewed spirit that life is continuing on a roll in a new direction. </span>Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-43994737218556883992013-07-04T11:01:00.002-07:002013-07-15T14:01:13.742-07:00Keep on moving on: what I learned from my horse ride<div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;">
<span style="text-indent: 0.5in;">(I revamped a piece I wrote a few years ago about my horseback riding lessons. I needed to remind myself of this lesson & interestingly enough, it perfectly fits the themes of this July 4th Independence Day!)</span><br />
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<span style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.5in;">Don’t fall off -t</span><span style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.5in;">hat's the s</span><span style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.5in;">age advice I learned when riding a horse.</span><span style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.5in;"> </span><span style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.5in;">I had signed up for horseback riding lessons a few years back to get over a childhood fear of riding horses.</span><span style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.5in;"> As a kid, I didn't</span><span style="text-align: center; text-indent: 48px;"> glow in confidence. I felt run down quite often and g</span><span style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.5in;">etting on top of an animal so strong and seemingly uncontrollable scared me. </span><br />
<span style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.5in;">As an adult, I wanted to correct my insecurities but I had to deal with my doubts that I lacked the will or commanding presence to ride the horse and get it to “listen” to me.</span><span style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.5in;"> </span><span style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.5in;">But I wanted to learn if I could, or at least what it took.</span><span style="text-align: center; text-indent: 0.5in;"> </span><br />
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On my first lesson, we didn't get
on the horse. Instead, we learned about
them, how they responded to us, where their blind spots were. Once we learned what their needs were, and how
to control them, then we got to go for a ride.
Oh, and also, the teacher stressed we really needed to pay attention and be present.<br />
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Being present hasn't been easy for me. I've often escaped into being "elsewhere", not always interested and comfortable where I was. If I wanted to get on a horse, I didn't have that luxury of escapism. I had to pay attention or else I might find a tree branch in my face at best or being kicked onto my behind at worst. So I paid attention to what the teacher said as best as I could trying to hold back my anxieties.<br />
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I took a brief hiatus after my first lesson. (I got offered a contract job I felt I couldn't refuse). When I returned to the lessons, I got put into a class full of advanced students. This both intimidated me & inspired me. I knew I wasn't going to be as good as the other riders but I felt comfort that they knew what they were doing & they could help me. And they did. </div>
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One of the woman I bonded with talked about riding as being her one Zen day amidst her hectic schedule. Riding to her was meditation. This Zen feeling took
awhile for me to figure out; I was too busy hanging onto the horse, my back in
knots. However, I did manage to figure out that staying in the saddle was not just a matter of thighs clenching the saddle but also the balance of
the hips swaying back and forth. It was
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Once I figured out that I had to both relax but also grip the saddle, I let go in my next horse ride. My teacher instructed that as the horse
runs, its back flexes up and down so we had to follow that movement. (If we didn't go with the flow, then we would make the ride bumpy & uncomfortable). When it was my turn, I shut my mind off, responded to the horse’s
movement, feeling a oneness with him. My grip lessened on the reigns, holding just enough to guide my horse. Because I let go enough, the horse could feel free to run. I didn't fear falling off; I put trust in myself that I wouldn't. I remained present & I could feel the true power & strength of the animal beneath me. Running this free was one of the most exhilarating feelings I’ve ever had.<br />
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As the lessons continued I learned this: At all times, I needed to keep my focus ahead of me. I had to navigate the reigns and lead the horse or the horse would lead me -but not to tightly - if the reigns were held too tightly, the horse would try to break free. I could understand how the horse felt. Isn't that how humans react too? As a person, I like to feel free, and give others free reign. But in not wanting to be a person who seemed "bossy" I also didn't state what my needs were. Could there be a possible balance in life where you could state what you want, give direction to others but also help maintain freedom for myself and for them? I was learning I could.</div>
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Riding a horse is a balance act, like life is. And having a relationship with a horse is similar to any type of relationship. I had to learn what the horse responded to so I could get what I wanted - a fun ride. I'm still learning how to navigate life - where I need to give direction &; where I need to learn to let go. It's a work in progress; but what I got from my lesson is this: once I learned how to really ride, the ride took me places I've often wanted to go. This is the lesson I need to remember so I can keep on moving on!</div>
Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-7905042057989934192013-05-11T22:26:00.003-07:002015-02-26T16:24:33.789-08:00Can You Feel What I Feel? - A Glimpse into Being an Empath<br>
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I’ve hinted around a few times on my blog that I’m “highly sensitive”
or I get these “feelings”. What I truly meant was that I’m an
Empath. Yes an Empath – like the character,
Counselor Deanna Troy, on Star Trek, the Next Generation. I remember
how excited I became when first watching that show and seeing her character because even
though I knew she played a fictional character, the fact that it showed an
Empath meant I wasn’t alone, and that there were others like me. It may sound odd but that gave me great
comfort because I didn't talk about my abilities or share them because I didn't know if anyone would truly understand. It took me years to unravel what my ability was much less share my skills with others. </div>
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What is an Empath? Empaths are people with heightened feeling
capabilities. We feel and experience feelings more intensely than others. That’s a general description. Each Empath like any other person who has a
talent manifests that talent in hers or his particular way. What I can say about my ability is that I pick up on energy - positive or negative - being emitted in the world. To me, feelings are energy vibrations and I can tune into that vibration. And with that ability to tune in, I can
feel other people’s feelings, an animal’s feelings, as well as tune into the
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I wasn’t always comfortable with this ability. For one, even
though I knew I had this ability, I didn’t share it because I wasn’t sure if I’d
be believed. But I had a sense with some people that they could pick up on it.
In fact, I had one boss that recognized it and he at times would ask how he
should approach a particular person because he could see that I could tune into
that person and figure out the best approach with that individual. </div>
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Then there were others that didn’t believe me. Well, just
one (* see note at bottom ) She fiercely contended that there was no way I could feel people’s
feelings. Honestly, I had doubts that this person and I could be true friends
and part of me sharing my ability was a test - a test she didn’t pass & I
distanced myself from her after that. I did so because I didn’t want to hide
who I truly was around people who couldn’t understand this kind of ability. After
that, well, a long while after I licked my wound from that event clean,
I started to become more open about my gift. And in doing so, I began to
connect with more people who had empathic ability. Life seems to work that way.
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Recently, I’ve begun to open up more around people I’ve
known awhile. And in that, any doubts I may have had about my own perceptions
of my ability were nullified. “Yes, Jen”, they said, “We know. You really can
feel people’s feelings.” And then I had to laugh and say, “Okay, really, it’s
just not me that perceives it that way.”</div>
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I’ve been cultivating a new friendship and in getting to
know a new friend I’ve wondered how much do I want to share with this person
about my empath ability before she thinks I’m totally weird. But she’s been very open-minded and
delightfully curious about the whole thing.
Prior to meeting me, she’d never heard of an Empath. She knew of people
being sensitive or intuitive but she never knew of the depth of the Empath
ability. Because of her curiosity, while we were taking a walk, I rambled on about
how I could feel people’s feelings and at times take on their energy. With compassion she said it must be hard to
feel other people’s pain. “Well, honestly,” I said “it’s hard but there are
good things too, like, I wish you could feel what I feel when I feel the energy
of trees.” Then I had to say to myself, “Did I really say that out loud? Did I really
just confess that I feel my communication with trees?” “I know it’s weird,” I
told her, “but I feel trees and honestly, the loving vibrations I feel from
trees are probably some of the most awesome feelings I’ve experienced.” </div>
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Here’s the really amazing part, my friend totally believed
me. And we continued to talk about what it’s like to communicate with trees. Then
I finally switched topics and we talked about something else I’m sure - I think
running shoes. </div>
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Last week my friend and I were hiking on a trail. I don’t
know who spotted them first, but a glowing bush of gorgeous purple flowers shot
off the trail. I bent down to the plant and told it how beautiful it was. As I
sent out loving vibrations to the plant it responded (of course) with loving
vibrations in return. “I felt that,” blurted my friend. “I felt that plant
responding to you.” ‘YOU DID?!,” I yelped excitedly. I asked what it felt like.
As she began to put together her thoughts I interjected how it felt to me and
she said that wasn’t how she felt it. Then she described her reaction (not that
I can remember now what she said) but her description felt far more accurate
than the words I had put together. And
in hearing what she said, I knew, she really had felt it too. </div>
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I don’t know if my friend will continue to feel plants or
start feeling trees. I hope she will. I hope she’ll be able to feel what I feel
because feeling matters. If you ask me if I like being an Empath what I can say
is this: maybe I don’t always want to pick up things, and there are times where
I am blocking what I receive and feel - but not always. Often, I do like
feeling the connection, or know that I can connect in a way to the world that
although it may be hard, it might be necessary. There’s a lot of feeling out
there - a lot that’s not said because
some people don’t know how. And maybe there are people like me that have to
feel those feelings and express them. I don’t know. All I know is what I feel
and if I can help others connect in a deeper way to the world, then that’s all
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* Note - I recently saw my friend who made the comment "You can't feel how other people feel". I haven't seen her in years and we reconnected at a mutual friend's party. <i> </i>I had decided prior to the party that I would let her know if the subject came up about how her comment made me feel. We used to work together in the same field so when she and a couple of other work acquaintances asked me what I was up to, I honestly told them that I was pursuing being an Intuitive Healer. Being a radical change to what I used to do, the subject opened up to what an Intuitive Healer is and me being an empath. They all seemed interested and respectful of this new career path for me. Later in the evening I told my friend about the 1st time I told her and her reaction. Her response was, "well that was rude." I said, laughing, "Yea, I thought so but I also thought maybe you weren't ready to hear that about me." So she apologized and I accepted and I felt really good about the interaction. Feels good to be accepted by friends. </div>
Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-64539285843588468502013-05-10T11:56:00.000-07:002013-05-10T11:56:05.963-07:00Soul Words that couldn't fit into the Twitter boxSome things pop into my head and I need to share. I usually Tweet them out to the Universal space but today's was too long and I didn't want to constrain my message. So here it goes:<br />
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I spent too many years seeking outside myself to understand
my life’s direction. Truthfully, we chart our own course every day. We just
need to tune into what we’re doing.</div>
Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-89749294085629570152013-02-18T15:59:00.000-08:002013-02-24T11:52:41.500-08:00Love Lesson Learned<br />
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I’ve been doing a lot of mental clean up lately – the dirty kind of clean up of the thoughts that have filled me with shame. The ugly stuff I have had a hard accepting like the times I felt rejection and not being good enough. </div>
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Today I thought about Dominick. Dominick: the handsome man from Ireland; Dominick
the jerk; Dominick the player; Or in actual reality, the dude I projected my
insecurities on when he didn’t follow up with our 3<sup>rd</sup> date. </div>
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I met Dominick at a friend’s party in San Francisco. We hit
it off - probably too well off as I ended that night at his place. We walked on
the beach the following morning sharing what we wanted out of life. He
impressed me with his knowledge of Physics and Marine Biology. I love a smart man. And to boot, I found him
physically attractive. This blend of a
man hasn’t always been for me that easy to find. </div>
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We went out again. I took him to an oyster bar in Point
Reyes. Things seemed to go well and I made it clear how much I liked him. And
then he never called me for the third date.</div>
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“OH NO. What did I do?,” came my ruminations after no call
from Dominick. Too pushy, aggressive, I blamed myself for being. I’m not the
type to hold back when I know what I want. So I made my check list of all the
things I did wrong to push him away. And I beat myself up. And I did this longer
for any reasonable amount of time. After a time, his name came up in a conversation with an
acquaintance by the name of Doreen. I doubted Doreen knew my relationship to
him. She complained that all Dominick could talk about was his “GORGEOUS
Brazilian girlfriend.” (Put a sneer with an Irish accent when you read gorgeous
because that’s how Doreen emphasized it). My response was a light, “Oh that
guy? He’s just a jerk.” “He IS a jerk,” agreed Doreen. Then I had to laugh. He probably was a jerk, at least, in that context.</div>
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The next time I saw Dominick was at an Irish pub sitting
with his GORGEOUS Brazilian girlfriend. They were just sitting, not even facing
one another. Dominick had a searching look, maybe examining who was looking at
him with his GORGEOUS Brazilian girlfriend. She looked around not seeming to
know what to do with herself. She had
the low body fat that hit on my insecurities of “Well, maybe he was looking for
someone thinner.” In truth, I didn’t know. Whatever I made of his supposed rejection of
me was my own problem, the problem I thought I had which I made up from insecurity that said, "I’m not perfect therefore I’m not loveable." YIKES! That is my ultimate
dirty secret, my biggest insecurity – that if I’m not perfect, I can’t be loved. There I said it out loud, in a public forum and I didn't keel over and die. WHEW!</div>
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I’ve spent the last several years trying to “fix myself” and beating
myself when I haven’t reached what I thought I’d reach – that ultimate place of
being untouchable; that magic place where no one could ever criticize me or
bring me down & make me feel badly about myself. Because when you're perfect, no one can say anything badly about you right? I've carried that illusion for years, bubbling under the surface but not so close that I could pop it and see it for what it was - an unreal expectation. There is no real way to maintain perfection. We all get battered and bruised. And we learn. And in that, we actually become better people. This is the point of the lesson I've been missing out on. </div>
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The other lesson in love that I'm focusing on is maintaining what I want and my needs. What do I want? I want someone who is kind, considerate,
loving, compassionate, thoughtful, and most importantly respects me. But most
importantly, I want to be that kind of person to myself. I have to treat myself the way I want to be treated so I know what that feels like to feel loved & accepted. We are what we project after all, and if I project self-love I will find the love I want in return. </div>
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It's taken me awhile to figure out what's really broken in me. It's my ability to love myself as I am instead of what I think I should be. I am a person who has the capacity for great love. Most importantly though, it starts from within and radiates out, like the sun. As the light inside me grows steady and strong I know it cannot be diminished. It is eternal. That in my mind is the essence of true love. </div>
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Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-10251961955396211872012-10-02T11:04:00.000-07:002012-10-02T11:04:02.250-07:00Old Poem. New DayI scribbled this poem out after someone gave me a fountain pen.<div>
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missing out of this equation? Things change. That’s life. That’s growth. That’s
evolution. And when it’s our time to pass onto the other side, back to the life of spirit, it means that we are
facing another change. Like any change, we may fear it. For me, it’s the
greatest blessing because my earth lesson’s are done and I can move onto the
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Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-62295504827591816802012-05-23T14:08:00.000-07:002012-05-23T14:08:00.463-07:00Life's ParadoxesI'm organizing my writer's scribbles - those thoughts that burst and have to be caught on paper. I have endless notes on endless scraps of paper which I'm trying to organize into some rhyme or reason.<br />
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Here's one I scribbled a few months ago. I remember now I wrote it for a script.<br />
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“What are you doing here?” </div>
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Here are 12 actions I do regularly:<br />
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1. Reusable shopping bags at the ready: I keep at least one reusable shopping bag in the car. Though I like to plan my shopping trips to maximize time and not drive needlessly, there are times when I’m out and about that I remember items I forgot or need at the moment. And I take my bag everywhere, to any kind of store, which has its own benefits, beyond saying a bag: At Target (5 cents discount), Trader Joe’s (opportunity to win a raffle prize), or Sav-On (usually a nice thanks for being eco-friendly) are just a few examples.<br />
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2. Using a timer for showers: My bathroom heater has a timer so this makes it especially easy to monitor my showering time, which can get long as I tend to space out. Setting it on 5 minutes or less helps me not waste water and minutes in the shower.<br />
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3. Driving a gas efficient car: this speaks for itself, though I know not driving at all is the best eco-green option.<br />
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4. Taking off one day a week not to drive: Since Earth Day 1991, when I took this pledge as part of an EDF campaign, I have tried to do this as best as I can.<br />
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5. Walkable errands: If I can walk to a destination rather than drive, I choose that option. Walking is my main exercise so it’s a win-win.<br />
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6. Reusable Coffee Mug: Usually I do take my cup when I get takeaway coffee. There are coffee houses, like SBS, if you ask, that will give up a cup if you plan on staying in the shop. (Sometimes I forget this myself so I should write a note to myself and keep it on my smart phone).<br />
a. In truth I know that the truly eco-green coffee option would be to stay at home, drink an organic, shade-grown, free-trade blend, so I try not to overdo going to the coffee house.<br />
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7. Unplugging appliances that don’t need to be on: I don’t always remember this but it’s a great habit to develop. There are so many appliances with blinking clocks, from DVD players, toasters, to microwaves getting into a regular habit of unplugging them will save an unnecessary energy drain.<br />
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8. E-bills and E-pay: Not everyone is comfortable with going online with their bills but I love it. Not only does it save paper, it’s convenient, and I don’t have all that paper filing (or shredding) to do.<br />
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9. Not tossing my old batteries into the landfill: I save my old batteries plus other items considered hazardous waste in California and I take them to the appropriate waste center once a year. Normally cities, at least in California, have at least one hazardous waste pick up day a year.<br />
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10. Buying used first: I take the adage, “one person’s trash is another person’s treasure” as a green motto seriously. From thrift stores, antique stores, used book stores to used and recycled clothing stores, I’ve had pretty good luck finding things I need. Sure, I like sparkly new things and I do buy new, but how soon does the sparkling new turn old? And why not reuse something if it can be reused? Of course I try to keep my shopping at minimum. And I look for timeless, classic styles and items.<br />
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11. Buying recycled paper and plastic goods: It used to be that buying recycled products would cost several dollars more. I find that to be less true these days. I’ve found recycled paper and plastic kitchen and office products at reasonable prices when shopping at major retailers.<br />
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12. Recycle: This is so part of my routine I almost forgot to include this on my list. I am one of those people that if I see an item in the communal regular trash bin that should go into recycling, I will remove it and put it into recycling. It's where my OCD tendencies can come out to shine. :)<br />
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Since I’ve just touted my eco-green horn, here’s a confession of green actions I need to improve upon:<br />
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1. Composting: I really need to get a grip on composting and do it more often.<br />
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2. Bicycling: One day I’ll get over my phobia but I’m a bit fearful riding a bike. I know this is a great green option that I hope to incorporate in the future.<br />
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3. Cleaning out my car: I carry needless things in my car that probably drain my mileage. I need to clean it out so I can get even better gas mileage.<br />
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4. Buy less frozen food packaging. I’ve gotten really lazy about this. I need to cut back which will be better for the landfill and for my health.<br />
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Oh, I could go on…
What’s your green no brainer?Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-71333894794002884842012-03-14T11:28:00.015-07:002012-03-14T17:49:26.377-07:00In a field of MonarchsThere are moments in life where you happen upon something so unexpected you wonder if it can happen again or question if the likelihood of its duplication so slim the encounter can only be described as "lucky chance". I walked a trail in Laguna Beach religiously. The trail straddled rolling hills where hawks hovered and ravens swooned over the desert bush and sages. Idyllically beautiful, this place had a sacred, mystical quality and I tended to fall into romantic thoughts as roadrunners whizzed by me, overtaking my jog. But even so, I hadn't been prepared for what I would encounter on one particular day. As I walked down one of the hills my eyes saw a vision of a thousand Monarch butterflies strewn out over the brush. I had never seen so many at once. I realized I happened upon the one day they took to rest there on my favorite trail before they continued down their way to Mexico. I had no camera, just my own vision as I passed by cluster upon cluster of beating wings. I have never been so thrilled in my life.<br /><br />I have no idea if the Laguna Beach trail is a regular stopping point for Monarch butterflies on their yearly migration to Mexico. I haven't seen it again. So this makes me feel lucky and blessed that I got to be a part of their journey, even if was just walking by. I wish I could share a frame of my experience. This link to this video will have to do: http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/nature/journey-butterflies.htmlJen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-30625172948703532102011-12-12T12:49:00.000-08:002011-12-12T13:31:41.326-08:00Going Green & Saving Green This Winter Holiday Season<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7DdfuZ-wLw2Xyse8WQTzkMn3mq2k2QLBQ-5lqRGsvZDn7jJAXeEdX4nXoo278oAIhCXJAN3fXd9h6VjLO5eodXTTyFM4WgVJ7JTTwL9XKpru952M-k6jQGNB7IpHuoluxqxClIeYGMZc/s1600/Oh+what+fun+ornament.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 200px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg7DdfuZ-wLw2Xyse8WQTzkMn3mq2k2QLBQ-5lqRGsvZDn7jJAXeEdX4nXoo278oAIhCXJAN3fXd9h6VjLO5eodXTTyFM4WgVJ7JTTwL9XKpru952M-k6jQGNB7IpHuoluxqxClIeYGMZc/s200/Oh+what+fun+ornament.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5685357707472870082" /></a><br />I love the holidays, the lights, the festivities, but I hate the impact over-consumption can have on the environment. Making eco-friendly choices can not only save energy or prevent needless paper & plastic waste from going into the landfills, but save money in the long run. <br /><br />Here are some ideas I've used in the past. I hope will give you some very green holiday cheer!<br /><br />Packaging - Use recycled and recyclable materials: It’s easy to be attracted to the shiny, metallic paper but recycled wrapping paper can be just as pretty and less taxing on the landfill. For a cheaper alternative, reuse gift bags decorated with old holiday cards or cutout snowflakes. (Great for covering store logos). Reuse bows and ribbons. <br /><br />Natural products make great gift decorations: Instead of plastic bows, try a natural gift decoration like holly and berries, eucalyptus leaves, rosemary or olive branches. They look beautiful and if they’re from your yard, they don’t cost a thing!<br /><br />Use canvas bags as gift wrap: An alternative to gift bags is packaging your present in reusable canvas shopping bags that the recipient can use year-round. The Clean Green Bag Company makes affordable, sturdy grocery bags available at www.cleangreenbags.com. But you can buy cute canvas shopping bags anywhere these days, and many stores, like Target will give you a few cents off every time you use your bag instead of taking one of their plastic ones. <br /><br />Starter environmental kit: I'm amazed that some folks don't know about some truly great green, biodegradable cleaning products and everyone needs cleaning products so this will be a truly useful gift. Start with your favorite cleaning products (I love Seventh Generation) and add compact-fluorescent bulbs, and garbage bags made from recycled plastic or biodegradable garbage bags. "Wrap" them in a canvas bag. <br /><br />Gift cards: From restaurants to grocery stores, book and coffee shops, there is a gift card for everyone; and giving a card lets the individual get exactly what she or he wants. For a coffee lover (like me), give them a gift card from their favorite coffeehouse “wrapped” in a travel mug. Using the mug will save them 10 cents each time, stretching their gift card while saving the landfill from unnecessary cups. <br /><br />Candles: Cut down on your emissions by choosing soy candles over paraffin. They burn cleaner, are more fragrant, and are available everywhere– including Target. <br /><br />Energy-Efficient Holiday Lights: Look for LED lights or energy-saving lights for lighting your tree or home. The initial price may be more than regular lights, but you’ll save in energy costs. <br /><br />If you have ideas to add, please post a comment and I'll incorporate them into my next holiday season. Happy Holidays all!!Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-16853419082898775882011-06-10T13:42:00.000-07:002011-06-10T13:50:39.158-07:00Short-term MemoryIn California, in May, it always rains;<br />but no one seems to remember.<br />Every year someone comments on the rain, saying it’s out of sorts;<br />And I remind them that it rains every year in May,<br />but no one seems to remember.<br />I know, because one year I paid attention; because I didn't expect it but I noted that it happened.<br />And that it fell again the year after - and the year after; and while I noticed the rain I noticed too that people didn't expect it and saw it as abnormal. But it happens every year. <br />It rains in May.<br />Now I wait for the person who comments that it’s raining in a month where no one expects the rain,<br />because I’m paying attention and I expect the rain.Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-41737788026075371702011-05-02T12:45:00.000-07:002011-05-02T13:14:27.207-07:00MirrorsMirrors are funny things. How can we trust them to reflect back what’s really there? What do we really see? These thoughts came to mind as I saw a more pleasing version of my body in the Starbuck’s bathroom mirror. As I looked at myself, my hips and body looked slimmer. I wondered how accurate this mirror was. Was it my reflection or my perception or both? <br /><br />As I pondered whether this mirror was made purposely to make the image appear "thinner", I remembered a story of a woman and her mother who for years saw their behinds as "large" when they looked into their home mirror. Another woman came along and checked out herself in the same mirror. "Hey, this mirror is off," said this woman. "Really?," exclaimed the other two. "Yes," said the third woman. "It makes your butt looked bigger." This astonished the other women who had convinced themselves that it was their bodies, not the mirror, that was distorted. Because of what the third woman said, the other two's perception changed. No longer was what the mirror reflected back real, but a distortion. <br /><br />So again I ask, what is a mirror? Is it real? Is it a distortion or is the distortion based on perception? Was the third woman right or the third woman wrong?I wasn’t there. I didn’t see the distortion or lack thereof. Though I can’t quite comprehend why these two women didn’t figure it out until another person had to point it out to them. Why were they so invested in this false belief of themselves? Didn’t they see other mirrors or were the other mirrors equally as damaging? <br /><br />How often do we see ourselves really? Or see what others see or don’t see? We can over-distort or under-distort - depending on conditioning - what we tell ourselves.<br /><br />That day at Starbucks, I liked what I saw in the mirror. A few years ago, I would have been disappointed because I always punished myself as being "not thin enough". I regret that in my twenties I often paid attention to my supposed faults and less on my attributes. Time is passing. I have wrinkles, gray hair. Back in my "youth" I wish I appreciated more my supple skin. I know better now. <br /><br />Sometimes I’m astonished to see such an old person looking back at me in the mirror. "Where did the wrinkles come from?," I ask. Then I remind myself I’m 42. I’m not concerned anymore at being perceived as sexy or in “competition” with other females. I’m concerned with myself, how I want to live my life and what I really want to get out of it over the next 30 years. I’m middle-aged. And I’m coming closer to self-acceptance. If I carry a few extra pounds, I’m not a failure at life. I'm letting go of other's negative comments about my body that I've allowed to control my thoughts and my self-perception. I'm focusing on what I do have - a functioning healthy body! However I choose to see the reflection, good or bad is ultimately how I want to relate to myself - and I want my relationship to be happy so I'll focus on the good.Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-61497847490095598222011-04-07T12:30:00.000-07:002011-04-07T12:37:19.441-07:00Second paragraph of my bookThanks to all the encouragement, I'm posting the second paragraph of my book:<br /><br />I bottomed out, and in those times, you can’t hide anymore. I hit a wall so hard it shook me to the core. For the past six years, I’d been painstakingly working my way up in Hollywood post-production, climbing to a position where I thought I could be more valued. When I got to that level, all my expectations of how my accomplishments would feel didn’t happen. My self-doubts that plagued me on the climb up weren’t cured; I still doubted my abilities, weighing myself against others. And in this new position of responsibility, I felt even more pressure to prove myself. So I worked hard which led to my getting even more responsibility. This gave me confidence that I was actually proving myself. But another voice inside me that gets buried too often rose up and said, “Why are you working harder than others but getting paid less?” This thought started driving me to the brink.Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-27520138653469270992011-04-03T13:50:00.001-07:002011-04-03T13:55:59.554-07:001st Paragraph of my book<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuX1G8oFDKH1pP5zBdqaMnbeB4D5xNNfveM6qc6LkE1d8knRGrgXJV7t6NLzWA2lpQZ5qYPUQw8XTdTJaCvdgE3f9W3Cy2k2y0Fq_CPhyphenhyphenBuMMewu2ZTzZZgjBKTB85EHKA6CcoVXnYCag/s1600/IMG_2092.JPG"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 150px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjuX1G8oFDKH1pP5zBdqaMnbeB4D5xNNfveM6qc6LkE1d8knRGrgXJV7t6NLzWA2lpQZ5qYPUQw8XTdTJaCvdgE3f9W3Cy2k2y0Fq_CPhyphenhyphenBuMMewu2ZTzZZgjBKTB85EHKA6CcoVXnYCag/s200/IMG_2092.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5591462839908017234" /></a><br /><br />Today I thought I'd post the first paragraph of my book, My Year of Living Manifest-fully. To be honest, I'm proud of this paragraph. I have a friend who laughs at me (in a good way) because I happen to be in love with my writing. Perhaps I should feel no shame in this. So with love, here's my first paragraph. I have several more... and more to write... Enjoy and if you feel like sharing your thoughts, that's always appreciated :)<br /><br />Here's the excerpt:<br /><br />"I begin my story at a place where perhaps a lot of people land. We think the world is against us, not knowing that the place we’re trapped in comes from what we’ve created. The spot becomes clearer when we’ve moved away from it, like a stain on a pillow. While in it, it’s hard to see. I inhabited a very dark spot. This black, cramped area felt like I was imprisoned or in a mental institution but I was at my job, dying, with my soul bursting to escape. No one could have guessed, with my easy smile and rosy cheeks that as I took a walk during lunch, next to the bustling traffic on a busy road, I wondered how it would feel to let go and fall in the middle of the rushing cars. It took all my strength not to let go and find out."Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-51790039901897921102011-03-28T21:46:00.000-07:002011-03-28T21:48:36.037-07:00Explaining the God conceptI wept when I first watched this video. I've often tried to explain my thoughts and feelings on what I feel as "God". I don't think I could put it more succinctly and more beautifully than this video:<br /><br /><iframe title="YouTube video player" width="480" height="390" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/bHuOjs9JpUI" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-69002660775100893442011-02-24T13:28:00.000-08:002011-02-24T16:11:45.549-08:00DisarmingThere was a time in my life when I was an anti-nuclear weapons organizer and activist. I participated in many parades, shouted many slogans. I analyzed the language used by fellow activists like "we are going to blow the opposition away" and wondered why our language had to be destructive. Wasn't that going against what we preached? I felt angry when I'd call for volunteers and get responses like, "I like to show my activism by walking in the woods." "Yeah, asshole", I'd think, "Where will the woods be if you don't do something about them!!!" It dawned on me one day that for all my peace activism, I wasn't peaceful inside. It was then I began seriously to pursue my spiritual quest to find a more balanced and harmonious life.<br /><br />I believe in standing up for rights, and by no means do I preach being a wallflower. But I wonder about using violence to curb violence philosophy which brings me to why I started to write this post. I've been reflecting on the day I stood up to a bully. One day, what seemed out of the blue, Missy, a somewhat awkward, tall, stocky girl followed me off the bus. She told me she was going to punch me and lifted her arm. She had at least 5 inches on me. I wasn't athletic, was 20 pounds overweight. Other then perceiving me as an easy target, I could not tell you why she picked on me that day. I don't know if I snubbed her or if there was truly anything I did; we rarely interacted to cause any friction. Whatever the reason she had hate & anger in her eyes.<br /><br />When Missy told me she was going to punch me I looked at her, with hard eyes and said, "If you are going to punch me, then punch me." This shocked her and she pulled away. I watched her, still in my defiant stance, as she shirked off. <br /><br />Who knew at 12 I was acting out passive resistance. I say passive because I didn't react by punching back. I took power out of her words because I told her to go ahead, if she wanted. But what she wanted was for me to show fear. I didn't. I showed that no matter what she did, it wouldn't affect me. So what was the point in her doing what she did? She couldn't get what she wanted, an opportunity to feel power over another.<br /><br />When we react out of fear, doesn't that just tell the perpetrator that intimidation works? If we continue to build arms doesn't that mean that we feel we always have to defend? Some may call this a simplistic view. I call it an advanced one - one that looks ahead, like the Dreamer vision John Lennon sang about, that one day we'll realize that destructive behavior no matter what the circumstance doesn't solve the issue in the long run. We can take active steps to create a positive way and the old ways of resolving disputes will seem ludicrous.<br /><br />But from the images and news I see over and over, this vision isn't today. The vigilante, eye for eye revenge mentality pounded into us by U.S. media from movies to reality shows sickens me. And I see many examples of this playing out around me.<br /><br />I wish I knew what caused Missy to act that way - what was going on in her personal world that would make her want to lash out. I hope whereever she is today, she's not having one of those days.Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-56178181154142688452011-02-20T12:07:00.000-08:002011-02-20T12:38:49.329-08:00ConfessionsToday I reworked a poem, originally written 14 years ago as part of a poetry class assignment. We were to write about a secret never told. I decided to write one about a friend who I shared almost everything but this one "secret. I kept this "secret" originally not out of my own fears or shame but at the request of our other friends' concerns who thought our friend's religious beliefs couldn't handle it. <br /><br />My poem came out so cryptically that my poetry teacher didn't understand it. Then again, he didn't get a lot of things I wrote. The question is, how much do we unravel so that other people can understand us? And is it worth it in the end? <br /><br />Here's my poem titled, "Confessions" <br /><br />On the couch<br />that’s mine when you’re married,<br />I’ve pulsed, <br />waiting with grain on my tongue<br />for scales weighting over.<br />The candy kisses always on your table<br />replace my mouth.<br />Break my vows.<br /><br />You’re up the street every Sunday<br />Bells ringing at that damn church.<br /><br />Chasing confessions.<br /><br />You changed;<br />we thought from that old hick town phobia.<br /><br />You pulled out of us dirty underwear piece by piece<br />to satisfy what you couldn’t do<br />and what we used as confessions.<br /><br />But amongst us girls, we keep against you<br />Beyond cheap thrills,<br />the deepest sins against your believed recrimination.<br /><br />The constraints of your beliefs wrapped so tightly<br />They’re invisible.<br /><br />They keep you in line<br />and us out.<br /><br />The couch sunk in laughter,<br />like a brother we wish you all were,<br />I sit back, arms crossed<br />weighing what it means to be heard.Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4850351730536588690.post-52420297410864269412011-02-14T09:39:00.000-08:002011-02-14T10:51:57.581-08:00Perfect DayI was watching a talk show last week where the host asked his guests, "What is your most memorable moment?" I've contemplated this question before, searching for the answer, wondering if I could pinpoint one event. I had several in mind but not one encapsulated a "perfect moment" where I felt it could sum up my life as saying, "This enthralled, inspired..." etc., etc. I've had mini-moments that built up to those kinds of feelings but they didn't stand on their own as being THE MOST MEMORABLE.<br /><br />Yet, there is one moment I think about when I gauge my happiness, a moment I consider when thinking about how I want to live my life. I was in art class drawing. As we drew, the art teacher played classical music in the background. That day he played Baroque. A bird landed outside the window and began to sing along with the music. I listened to the bird singing up and down as a perfect companion to the music's intricate patterns. It awed me and I felt completely happy.<br /><br />Thinking about that moment now, I still feel what I felt: perfect happiness, perfect content, perfect harmonious beauty. There hasn't been a moment quite like that again, but I look for it always as I stop to listen to birdsong or the wind blowing on the grass. <br /><br />Perhaps my life's poetry consists of moments built into verse that I can sing to myself to light up the dawn when I forget that it just takes one moment of beauty to bring perfect content...<br /><br />What's your best day?Jen Pearlmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06573656072560197183noreply@blogger.com1