One of my clients that I do spiritual coaching for prompted this post. After I relayed a message to her from my spirit guides for her, her response was a particularly human one. She said she wished her spirit guides would be more aggressive in communicating to her. I certainly have been in her shoes. I fully admit that I’ve yelled and hollered at my guides in times of doubt and said, “what’s up?” My guides, being patient, know that in a moment or two, after my yelling I’ll calm down because there’s always the higher perspective to understand & I’ll figure it out at some point.
Here’s what I know about the journey here in earth school. Like a book, if we knew how the story would end, why read it? Why take the journey if we knew already what was in store? In the bigger picture, why choose to incarnate into earth school if we already knew the answers. We don’t have them – we come here to learn them – because the answers we gain here come from our own experiences.
Our lessons begin on the other side. We are given instructions and then we set out in this journey to experience it first-hand. Something happens and we exclaim, “why didn’t our teachers tell us this?!” Like the the good witch from the Wizard Oz told Dorothy &; her friends, “she had to learn this for herself,” that's pretty much the standard answer I gave. I say it because it's true.
Our guides are here to give, wait for it… GUIDANCE. They can give us answers to help us along the journey but they don’t often give the whole score. It’s up to us to figure this out. This is again due to us needing to find our own answer for ourselves. Here’s an example of what I mean. I have several intuitive gifts but I’m not fully clair-audient which is the ability to hear clearly messages from the other side. I’m good at feeling things but I used to question EVERYTHING and often sought answers outside of myself thinking that would give me a clearer understanding of messages I felt I wasn't comprehending. I asked a medium / spiritual coach who is fully clair-audient to ask my guides about my writing path. I knew and even had universal confirmation that I was here to be a writer. But I wasn't going anywhere with it. I wanted more guidance, answers, and what my overall purpose was. So I waited for this magical answer from my guides that would help me understand. The channeled answer was this, “pick up the sword.” My response, “what?” Again the coach repeated, “pick up the sword.” I shrunk back in my chair, arms crossed fuming. “What the hell do they mean, pick up the sword?,” I retorted. The coach tried to help by prompting me to think about what a sword meant but I was hotly perturbed at that point. I wanted a direct answer from my guides to tell me what to do and what I got was, to me, a riddle.
Me being me, and my quest always to uncover what things mean, I went round and round with, “take up the sword." I couldn't quite make sense of it. One weekend I decided to watch the Lord of the Rings trilogy. In the 3rd movie, Aragorn has the moment where he picks up the sword and decides to follow his destiny. Are you waiting for me to say, “And then it clicked?” It didn’t right then. Here’s when it happened. At the time I worked as an assistant at a PR firm. I was a temp and I was torn because they wanted to fill this position and it was between me and another girl. The position would have meant job stability but it didn’t match what I wanted to be – a writer. I knew my spirit guides had set me up in this position as a possible job but I was hesitant to take it because I hated (loathed, despised, etc.) being an assistant. That following Monday, I had a breaking point at the job. One of the PR managers, not my direct boss but my boss adjacent (AKA one of my boss’s bosses) asked me to do her expense report. I cannot tell you HOW MUCH I HATE DOING EXPENSE REPORTS. (Yes, I had to go full bold face capitals.) During lunch, the expense report task continued to set off sparks. While I was stomping through the courtyard thinking about it, the scene with Aragorn popped into my head and I said to myself, “I don’t want to be an assistant. I want to be a writer. It’s my destiny. It’s what I’m here to do.” CUE BIG MUSIC. That’s how momentous my discovery felt. It wasn’t long after that the boss adjacent told me I didn’t get the job. They decided to give it to the other girl. This would have bummed me out if I took it as being passed over. I didn’t.
Here’s what really happened. Our guides are here to guide us, but they are also with us on this journey to manifest for us what we want to do. And they finally heard me say it. I was tired of doing the admin work and I was ready to put aside my fears and embrace what I came into this lifetime to do – write.
I called the medium/ spiritual coach and told her I figured it out. She nicely relayed a message from my guides, “we’re so proud of you. It took you a bit but you figured it out to the deepest meaning. It is a gift and it’s yours for this lifetime.” She also relayed that because I had figured out the message, I also shut down the job because I truly didn’t want to do it. So, my guides, having my best interest at heart went to search for better opportunities to support my career goals.
The bigger picture is that we have to let our guides know we are truly ready to manifest the next step in our lives. Saying no to what you don't want is truly the best way to bring in better opportunities into your life.
So just know, when things don’t always seem to be working out as you thought, there is always a plan in progress – and a plan that gets adjusted based on what we learn, continue to learn, and where we want to grow. I don’t always get the full plan. I do my best as an intuitive, empath, clair-sentient and clair-cognizant person to figure it out but I don’t always have that answer. Sometimes our guides don’t know. We never really know until the plan fully manifests. What I do know is that it’s best to take heart and know that when we put our best foot forward, the universe does its best to respond. And sometimes the “best” looks like a job rejection when it’s the best thing that could have happened to us at the time.